Is Your Marriage In Trouble? 10 Common Relationship Problems

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“Know that inside every successful person is someone who experienced failure but refused to let it define them, picked themselves up and kept going”, Judy Woodruff, Senior Correspondent, PBS

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Relationship problems… we all have them or have faced them in the past. “What is wrong?”, we may ask.  Well, there may be a number of problems in your relationship, and here are some of the most common:

1) Apathy.
After a while, we can get into a rut and start taking our partner for granted, or he may take us for granted. Relationships mean work, and if this is a problem, you’ll have to get creative in how to rekindle the romance. Try writing a love letter or calling him more often. Small shows of affection can go a long way in saving your relationship.

2) Hostility.
You or your partner may be filled with resentment or hidden anger. The past and how we deal with it is important here. Try forgiveness. Sometimes there is just no other answer to the problem.

3) Different goals.
Are you and your partner on the same wavelength? Are you moving forward to achieve common goals? If not, it is time to set some goals you and your partner can strive for together.

4) Control.
Are you trying to control your partner, only to be left feeling frustrated? Control and resistance to control are common issues in a wife-husband relationship. Remember that we usually have to let go of control if we want to have a nurturing relationship.

5) Bored with the relationship.
The love and excitement may have at an all time low, and you don’t know what to do. Try some new activities and some new ways of interacting with your partner.

6) Codependence.
How is your sense of self? Do you feel comfortable with who you are? Try working on your self-worth and self-esteem.

7) Communication.
You may want to read my article “Communication Skills Can Save Your Marriage”. Lack of good communication skills is one of the most common problems in a relationship. Follow the tips outlined in my article and you may see significant improvement.

8) Friends and Family.
Some people who really have no business interfering with your relationship may be offering input that you are better off ignoring. Although people have good intentions, only you are responsible for the relationship and your actions. Don’t allow other people’s opinions to influence your marriage or relationship with your boyfriend.

9) Lack of conflict resolution skills.
If you don’t fight fair or if your partner does not fight fair, the relationship will suffer. Take a time-out if the discussion gets heated. Focus on the positive. Stay in the present.

10) Prioritize your relationship.
If you are too busy with work or family responsibilities, make the time to spend some time with your partner talking and hugging. He may respond well to the attention, and your relationship will improve.

Ask yourself: Does your husband or lover seem distant?  Does it seem like the romance is gone from the relationship?  Would you like him to change?  Does he seem to be somewhat removed, cold, detached, indifferent,  or unloving

Don’t ignore those red flags!

Women who are proactive enough to look for options before the problems they are facing turn into enormous issues, now have access to amazing tools that offer help so that divorce need not be the end result of potential relationship problemsMarriage counseling is not the only solution.  You may not even be able to drag your husband or lover to counseling sessions!

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Communication Skills May Save Your Marriage!

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“There is no end to a woman’s growth.  Make personal time each day for self-reflection and personal enhancement.” Cat Cora, First and only Female Iron Chef

Communication“. The mere word sends chills down my spine because I know that so many women are having serious problems in a relationship with their significant other, and those problems can easily escalate into arguments about who said what to whom and where without end. Still, there are things you can do to improve the quality of your relationship. Here are a few pointers from someone who has been there and “done that” in terms of arguments and unintended misunderstandings:

1. Give him the benefit of the doubt and he may do the same for you.
If you tend to interpret things he says in a negative manner, he will become defensive and the conversation may spiral out of control. Try to interpret whatever he says in the best possible light, and if in doubt, ask him what he means by his statement.

2. Realize that he may not be listening as you would want him to listen to you because he is more interested in solving the problem. Men like to help, they were taught to do so by everyone in their life and helping makes them feel useful. Appreciate the fact that he is trying to come up with a solution, even though what you really want is for him to listen to you.

3. Listen to what he has to say and ask questions.
Sometimes men can be very short and to the point. Again, ask questions and keep the conversation going until you are satisfied that you are in fact communicating.

4. Try to communicate the positives.
Instead of focusing on the point of disagreement, focus on what you do agree about.

5. Remember there are no mind readers.
We are all guilty of expecting others to interpret and understand where we are coming from, after all, they know us so well. But this approach is dangerous and ineffective. You may be left feeling that your needs are not being met, and the conversation will spin down into in argument.

6. At the risk of sounding obvious, be clear.
The fact is that In actual conversation, it is possible that we are not finishing our sentences, defining our terms and actually saying what we want to say. Don’t tell him something hinting at what you really want him to do and then expect him to understand what it is that you actually mean or want. Assertiveness is always appropriate and it is necessary in order to make a point.

7. Practice.
Put these helpful hints into practice. Developing new skills comes through practice and patience.

Ask yourself: Does your husband or lover seem distant?  Does it seem like the romance is gone from the relationship?  Would you like him to change?  Does he seem to be insensitive, out of reach, removed, cold, detached, indifferent,  or unloving?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have him be crazy about you? Have him be enchanted with you… to have him cherish you, think the world of you,  be close to you, always attentive, considerate, loving you, treasuring you?  IT CAN HAPPEN!  Take action and see for yourself!  How?

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